Category Archives: Relationships

Trust

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Trust is the essence of a strong mutual bond. Everyone has their own perception of trust. It is difficult to understand and estimate it. The sanctity of a relationship can be easily compromised if there is slightest of breach in trust.

It is not a constant, it is a random variable. The value keeps changing with each action. The action could be the slightest of change in the whole equation.

Trust is also not a bank account where one keeps getting interest on it once it is earned and deposited. The Principal has to be maintained otherwise it keeps fluctuating.

It is like hard earned income, very hard to earn but easily spent or lost if one is not handling it judiciously. One needs to earn it, save it, invest in it, cherish it and finally enjoy it.

Virtual illusions.

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Illusion refers to ” something that deceives by producing false or misleading impression  of reality.”
In today’ s world, when social media is at its pinnacle, people, young or old are convoluted in a never ending maze of illusions.

Illusions arising from the desire of an individual to be a part of something.Social medias have groups,groups which comprise of all kinds of relationships.School mates, college mates, colleagues, neighbours, family members, cousins. Worst of all , bunch of strangers, tied together like a rope by some common interest.Think about an acquaintance and you can accommodate that person in a particular group.

The reason behind this culture is the basic need of a human to belong. To belong to someone, to belong to a particular niche.The need of a person to believe that they are wanted and are of value  to someone, anyone.

How real is this sense of belonging, and how much of it is mere mirage?

A blast of personal information, photographs,opinions are exchanged between people everyday.This regular food for brain creates the most deadly illusion.
You see a bunch of faces, that you remember from childhood, or  faces you see every day but do not connect to on a personal level, or faces of people you know inside out. Their images, their photographs, their opinions, their advice, their sense of humour bombard our brains  everyday creating the illusion of familiarity.
Familiarity which may or may not be real but misleading impression of reality. For those faces  are imprinted on our conscious everyday.
This familiarity  creates an illusion of ” idea of a person” in our brains . Imaginary persons are formed in the  subconscious, they are actually real  people but their behaviour, their characteristics  are moulded as per our own likings, only the faces remain the same and the subconscious gives birth to a new individual.
One must stop for a second and ponder, if these people you have formed an ” idea of” are real! Is one really  safe in the  virtual company of such dual individuals, whom we assure ourselves we know yet are stranger to.

Promises

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Lovers promise the Sun, the Moon and the Stars; eternal love; lifelong commitment. Love elevates a person to superhuman capacities, turning mediocrity into excellence in their hearts and minds. Expectations rise, heart swells with faith in  another person more than one believes in themselves. The world shrinks into a very small bubble with just the two of them.
But…can one actually promise anything to anybody when they themselves do not know, what is waiting for them in future? Can one really promise to keep one happy when they themselves don’t know what makes them happy?
Still ,we defy nature and make promises, promises for the future. Future,which is as unpredictable as life, forgetting the need to believe in today, this very moment, present which is as true and predictable as death itself.
When we love someone,  it is not promises for the  future that count or are believable .It is  “this moment” “right now”  what matters and as time passes, promises have to be extended, kept and renewed every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every week,  every month ,every year and years to come.
Yes!  It is neither easy nor a bed of roses.As tiring as it might sound and feel, that is what  a promise means.It is a job which needs one’ s attention, focus,every breath every moment for the rest of one’ s life. A herculean task? True! That is what love is all about, one  true moment at a time.

Entangled

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To be entangled in a situation, in a relationship or in life is something nobody wants but it cannot be denied that two or more lives entangled with each other are far better than being alone. The very essence of life is to love, share, care and be bound to someone who is of utmost importance. The fabric of society thrives on the entanglement of people with each other or else there would be no relationships, no happiness, no expectation, no desire, no sorrow, no pain which are the core of human existence.

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